One of the best remembered pieces from the premiere issue of Ms. magazine is “I Want a Wife.” Judy Brady’s (then Judy Syfers) tongue-in-cheek essay explained in one page what all too many men had taken for granted about “housewives.”
What Does a Wife Do?
“I Want a Wife” was a humorous piece that also made a serious point: women who played the role of “wife” did many helpful things for husbands and, usually, children without anyone realizing. Still less did anyone acknowledge that these “wife’s tasks” could have been done by someone who wasn’t a wife, such as a man.
The desired wife tasks included:
- Work to support us so I can go back to school
- Keep my house clean and pick up after me
- See to it that my personal things are where I can find them when I need them
- Take care of the babysitting arrangements
- Be sensitive to my sexual needs
- But do not demand attention when I am not in the mood
- Do not bother me with complaints about a wife’s duties
The essay fleshed out these duties and listed others. The point, of course, was that housewives were expected to do all these things, but no one ever expected a man to be capable of these tasks. The underlying question of the essay was “Why?”
At the time, “I Want a Wife” had the humorous effect of surprising the reader, because a woman was the one asking for a wife. Decades before gay marriage became a commonly discussed subject, there was only one person who had a wife: a privileged male husband. But, as the essay famously concluded, “who wouldn’t want a wife?”
Judy Brady was inspired to write her famous piece at a feminist consciousness-raising session. She was complaining about the issue when someone said, “Why don’t you write about it?” She went home and did so, completing the essay within a few hours.
Before it was printed in Ms., “I Want a Wife” was first delivered aloud in San Francisco on Aug 26, 1970. Judy (Syfers) Brady read the piece at a rally celebrating the 50th anniversary of women’s right to vote in the U.S., obtained in 1920. The rally packed a huge crowd into Union Square; hecklers stood near the stage as "I Want a Wife" was read.
Since “I Want a Wife” appeared in Ms., the essay has become legendary in feminist circles. In 1990, Ms. reprinted the piece. It is still read and discussed in Women’s Studies classes and mentioned in blogs and news media.