How to be supportive of a battered woman
If you know a woman whom you suspect is being physically abused, how can you help to support her?
Difficulty Level: Hard Time Required: Varies
- Notice signs of abuse: black and blue marks, burns, inappropriate wearing of sunglasses, sudden rash of accidents, etc.
- When she's not in earshot of her partner, quiety ask whether someone has hurt her.
- If she denies it, don't press, but ask again another time it's safe to ask.
- Make it clear you're available to talk if and when she's ready.
- Acknowledge that physical abuse is wrong: "It's wrong to hit you like that."
- Don't say or imply that she provoked the attack. Remind her it's not her fault.
- Don't press her to leave or blame her for not leaving. she may be in greatest danger at the point of leaving.
- Help her strategize how to be safe if she chooses to stay, even for a short time.
- If she wants to leave, help her research options and plan to minimize risks.
- Over and over, remind her that she's a person worthy of respect and dignity.
Tips:
- You're not a savior. Do what you can and don't blame yourself if your help is not accepted or appreciated.
